LOVE LANGUAGES: QUALITY TIME

The concept of "love languages" has become part of pop culture and the terms are used frequently in regard to the way that individuals feel loved and cared for in relationships.  The concept that we all give and receive love differently has been known by the mental health community for a very long time. The specific terminology of "love languages" originated in the book: 

The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate is a 1992 book by Gary Chapman

The forth "love language" is labeled as "quality time." This concept seems simple, but quality time can be defined differently in many relationships. The concept is that quality time is where there is an emotional connection, rather than passively conducting business or activities. Quality time can be for a moment, an hour, or a week long vacation. The common thread would be that this time is spent with focus and intention on the relationshp and the partner, rather than the focus being on the other tasks at hand. 

Some examples of "quality time" include:

1. Asking your partner about their day at work with active listening and thoughtful feedback.

2. Prioritizing a date night when there is someone available to babysit the kids.

3. Setting aside some time before bed to discuss love, plans, future opportunities, and anything of emotional intimacy.

4. Going on vacation without cell phones or other methods of communication outside of the relationship.

Quality time is different than time spent together. For many couples watching TV at the end of a long day at work is typical. The concept here is that time that is spent together for love or enjoyment may be a completely separate moment or opportunity than this would allow.