LOVE LANGUAGES: GIFTS

The concept of "love languages" has become part of pop culture and the terms are used frequently in regard to the way that individuals feel loved and cared for in relationships.  The concept that we all give and receive love differently has been known by the mental health community for a very long time. The specific terminology of "love languages" originated in the book: 

The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate is a 1992 book by Gary Chapman

The third "love language" is labeled as "gifts." In my practice, some couples consider this to be a materialistic attempt at love. Howver, for others there is a sacrifice behind a gift, there is an effort behind a gift, and even knowing that it took hard work and dedication to purchase the gift explains why this is not simply about going to the store. 

Some "gifts" include:

1. Buying tickets to vacation in Paris for Valentine's Day

2. Buying an engagement ring to symbolize love and a lifetime connection.

3. Buying champagne to celebrate a promotion or anniversary.

4. Buying chocolates on Valentine's Day

5. Buying a new gadget on a birthday

This list should show the indication that while gifts are monetary, we often include gift giving as a way to show love, support, and connection. Even buying a heartfelt greeting card can be enough of a thoughtful gift to show love and kindness.